
From The Occidental Observer, November 17, 2009
Is age 36 comparatively too young for me to be dispensing life advice?
Probably.
But I’ve seen enough misery among White friends, relatives, and co-workers who are in their 30s and 40s that I’m motivated to write. A lot of the misery, I’m convinced, is caused by the death-inducing lies fed to Whites by the popular culture — a culture that is heavily influenced by consumerism, pharmacology, misguided White liberalism and our Jewish ethnic competitors.
Whites today are a mess. They’re declining in numbers, politically dispossessed, and confused about who they are. They are ignorant of their history and haven’t even thought of their future as a race of people. So it should come as no surprise that they currently aren’t making any future to speak of. I’m chipping in to reverse this trend.
Don’t think of this as anything definitive or comprehensive. It’s a jumping-off point, food for thought, a spark for the mental juices.
Consider:
1. Get married
Once upon a time, mothers wanted this. Fathers wanted this. The whole family wanted this. They put pressure on younger people, and it worked. Today, that pressure is gone. It’s not good a good thing for Whites generally, or you personally.
Staying single into your 30’s and 40’s is recipe for isolated misery. The natural order of a healthy American life is to get married. Christians believe this, and correctly. Atheist racialist evolutionists believe this, and correctly. Whatever else motivates you, you should believe this, too. Because it’s true.
The “death culture” is one primarily aimed at Whites. Reject it. Don’t think that a happy life means perpetual adolescence and never-ending bachelorhood or bachelorette-hood. It’s a lie.
You look better at age 25. You have an open window, and you need to climb through it.
I cannot fathom the number of very smart and very attractive White women I’ve seen go unmarried. If you’re a woman, read “Just Marry Him,” the 2008 article from The Atlantic.
Read it if you’re a man, too.
I repeat: get married. It’s the rare person whose life is so important that they can’t be bothered to get married. Most presidents of late have been married, with children. If leaders of the free world can manage it with their schedules, so can you.
Marriage can be miserable. I need not go on about this. But it is far superior to the alternative: loneliness, partnerless-ness, family-lessness. On balance, I think studies show that married people are happier and live longer. Human beings need a partner, a family, a sense of the future. Lying in bed every night knowing that your body is the end of the genetic line should be a bracing thought. So kill the thought by getting married and having kids.
I am convinced that some Whites (usually women), disappointed by their inability to find a partner, declare themselves to be homosexual and pair off that way. I’m frustrated by this, partly because I doubt the actual “homosexuality” of these folks.
I’m not pointing fingers here, but maybe Whites of both sexes need to dispense with the notion that they’ll marry a matinee idol. You might be happier with a chunky White man with bad eyes who can give you children than another miserable chunky White woman who can’t.
The bottom line: wait for the perfect man or woman, and you’ll be waiting a long time. Marry someone you can stand, who you can imagine waking up next to every morning. Doesn’t sound romantic, I know, but there it is.
2. Marry a White person
You’ll be happier. I encounter dozens of White women who, convinced by Jewish propaganda that a Black man will enrich them, end up living ghetto lifestyles. Don’t buy this lie.
There is nothing more completely revolting and dispiriting to me than the sight of a White woman trailing her Black or Hispanic “ghetto daddy” and their corn-rowed, ghetto-beclothed young ones. Typically, she herself has often thrown in with the ghetto lot, dressing in sweatclothes and adopting a ghetto hairstyle of some kind.
But it’s not just me who’s made unhappy. These women are not really happy. They have descended to the undercrust of life, seemingly without an opportunity to return. These women are sometimes physically abused, living in lowly conditions, and otherwise ill-cared for (personal observation).
I don’t imagine that the thousands of White males who’ve married Asian women are as miserable as the White partners of Blacks, but I counsel avoiding this route as well. An Asian woman might have some advantages over a White woman — less feminist comes to mind — but try overlooking this for the good of the race.
By marrying a White person, you will be more closely related to your children. And since you would be more closely related to your White children, psychological research shows that you would be likely to have better rapport with them.
Your in-laws will be White, which will make things easier. They understand you. You understand them. The whole extended family will be White. A nice shelter in an increasingly hateful world.
And let’s face it — it’s not like White people are unattractive. A Jewish male might face the temptation to marry a pretty blonde “shiksa,” but he’s encouraged to get past that and marry into his ethnicity. You, White gentile male, should be marrying the pretty blonde (or brunette, or redhead). Many Jewish mothers would agree.
3. Have children
Don’t wait until your 40s. It is simply a lie that childbirth at 42 is as easy and risk-free as childbirth at 28. The media tells you this because it’s not interested in a healthy White society — it’s interested in quite the opposite. In fact, it’s much harder for women to get pregnant after age 35.
So many White women have been devastated by this falsehood: they put off children for an empty career end up pregnant with Down Syndrome babies, birth defects, birth difficulties, the need for fertility drugs, you name it.
Listen to nature: have children in your 20s and 30s. Have lots of them. Don’t worry about paying for them. They will not starve, believe me.
Making partner at Stumpson & Wickwacker is not more fulfilling.
Children are an absolute delight. Yes, they are also a pain. But don’t listen to the lies about how having kids will ruin your life. They won’t. Your life is not so important that you can’t change a damn diaper. This will put you in touch with reality. Someone changed your diaper, after all — give back, as the liberals like to say.
It just isn’t normal to go childless. Healthy life means being surrounded by all ages of Whites, from infancy to deathbed. This is life, and this is how it should be.
You look like an idiot with all your yuppie toys and no kids at 46. I’ve seen this White couple all over — on my side of the family and my wife’s. They have spectacular homes, very nicely decorated. Great, I admire that. But what lurks there is creeping death, and a certain sadness.
Few people accomplish all they seek in life. Your kids are your chance to live on. Don’t be the end of the family line, as Morrissey sings. Maybe it’s okay for him — he’s Morrissey. You shouldn’t be. Someone needs to be there in the future to enjoy the moping of Morrissey.
Having children is pretty much your primary life job. Get to it. And if an adorable blonde two-year-old squealing “daddy” and running into your arms when you get home from work isn’t enough, take a darker view: Your race is dying, White people. Resuscitate, stat.
Do it for the rest of us. I have never seen older White people light up so brightly as when they see White babies and children. You can almost hear them thinking, “thank God there are some left.”
Don’t listen to those childless Whites who proclaim that they’re perfectly happy without children. How would they know? If they were so naturally happy, would they feel the need to point it out?
And for God’s sake — dogs are not a substitute for children. “Well, you know, Max is really our baby,” I’ll hear childless White couples say about the Golden Retriever. No. He’s not. Max may be a nice dog, but calling him “your baby” makes a mockery of the human experience.
4. Live in a White area
Unless you’ve got a specially-tailored pro-White urban plan (like working to influence the urban opinion machine or getting really rich), get out of the cities. They’re great places for adventure, I know: I lived in New York City for seven years, and liked it, for the most part (counting the racial and Jewish reality lessons the place taught me).
But they are no place to raise a White family. Steve Sailer has even shown that they tend to choke off White families because of the costs involved.
Working and living in non-White areas corrodes the soul. It raises the blood pressure. You just don’t get along as well with Blacks, Hispanics and aggressive Jews as you do with your own White kind, believe me. In White areas, your neighbors will watch out for you. You can borrow jumper cables from them. They can borrow sugar from you. It’s nice. It’s comforting. It’s good.
It’s also so obvious I wondered whether I had to include it. Demographically, this is what Whites do, anyway. When they seek urban life, they sometimes head for White cities like Portland, Oregon. Fine.
5. Get rich
One pro-White figure of great stature recommends living off 90 percent of what you earn, and saving or investing the rest. That’s a good rule . . . live on a little less than what you make, basically. Try to stay out of debt, recognizing that education debt and mortgages are hard to avoid for normal people. Do not live on credit cards. Start the retirement account early. Slow and steady wins the race. Don’t put a lot of money in cars. They’re a terrible investment because they lose value so quickly.
6. But don’t let your career overtake your life
If you’re miserable on the job, you’ll be miserable, period. This is where you spend a lot of time, even if you’ve managed to escape the clutches of law firm life or some other week-gobbling enterprise.
It sounds trite, but it’s true: Do something you enjoy, something you’re good at. It’s going to take a hell of a lot of money to be satisfied with work you don’t like. What isn’t true is that if you “do what you love, the money will roll in.” Tell this to a writer. Still, better to do what you love.
7. Consider going to church
It would be way too hypocritical for me to suggest a rigorous faith life for anyone, which is why I say “consider” going to church. (If you already go, great — stick with it.) I see a great centering power, and hewing to Western traditional ways, in church. If nothing else, plant your rear on a pew for an hour a week to meditate. Even an atheist can do that, right? In college I might have said that believing in God was more important than going to church. I now believe that going to church is more important than believing in God. Just a thought.
8. Avoid drugs
Every other White person seems to be gulping down Prozac, Xanax, you name it. I am not a doctor, but I suspect these drugs are heavily overprescribed. A little bit of anxiety and depression is normal. Deal with them by talking to friends and family, finding a hobby or talking a walk. Maybe a little Jack Daniels if none of those work.
9. Know your family history
I am shocked by the number of Whites who don’t know ancestors beyond grandparents. You might find some comfort in knowing who your ancestors were, what they did and where they came from. I suspect that a “who cares” attitude toward this topic is helped along by the demonization of Whites as a people. So screw with the system a little and find out where your blood comes from. You might expand this to learning a little about your race’s history, from Greco-Roman times through the present. Your child will learn who Cesar Chavez was, but will he learn who Charles Martel was?
10. Stand up for your race
In ways big and small, there’s something more you could be doing. If you’re looking for a cause or a purpose larger than yourself, consider tackling the White plight. It will not win you admiration from the current power structure, but will give you the happiness that comes from fighting for a real cause.
18 Comments
Great piece!
Thank you. I would also add:
Ditch television, and for the most part, spending weekends devoted to sports. The sloth and corruption of the mind that comes from these things renders you useless or worse, a fellow traveler.
Take care of yourself – you don’t have to be a psycho; find something you enjoy that gets your heart rate 50% greater than your resting rate, and spend a couple of hours per week doing it. Bowling counts, as does hunting, golf does not, nor does fishing. Best case scenario is something you enjoy doing with your spouse.
Never stop reading… even if it never really was “your thing.” Most people cannot grasp how everything God has given us is a piece of art or amazing science, unless the have the curiosity of intellect to seek out the minds who have brought us this fruit. You will find that learning begets learning.
Take the very minuscule amount of time it takes to stay engaged with your kith and kin. These are the folks who will come to your aide when necessary, as will you go to them. Apart from the hum-drum, this invites veracity of the soul – even if it isn’t always pleasant.
Thanks again.
I think this is good sound advice. Though as I’ve pointed out before, there tends to be mutual exclusivity between #4 and #10: people who live in safe white areas often don’t see the need to stand up for their race; people who feel the need to stand up for their race are often motivated to do so as a result of unpleasant experiences with multiracialism.
It’s also important to marry someone with whom you share basic values.
I think this article gets at the heart of the national tragedy that is facing white people. We are deceived, depressed, suicidal, and taught not to think at all in our school systems. We are instead taught a set of emotional responses or prejudices which serve as our opinions. That is easy to say, but to throw these prejudices off is a herculean task. A task many people are ill-prepared for because it takes a lot of learning and effort, and the abiltity to think outside the box. (One of the reasons I think eugenics is so important is that for the truth to ever replace blind prejudice to any really significant degree, we need to prepare the way for it with fertile and critical-thinking minds.) We have to throw off the cloak of mindless death that has us hypnotized like lemmings running over a cliff.
The problem is dire — we are winking out of existence overnight. It took 15,000 years for the Neandertals to finally go extinct, and that was considered FAST by evolutionary standards. We are going extinct in maybe 150-200 years! There is a point of no return in our demographics that we will cross somewhere before that. I personally know that every single one of the most beautiful and talented females of northern European ancestry that truly stood out in my high school are all: 1) not married; 2) have no children; and 3) are almost past child-bearing age. Every one of them! Without exception! NO ancestors. Their staggeringly beautiful and talented genes will be gone forever from that line. Our entire people are dropping in population numbers so rapidly, that it beats all extinction curves we know of in biology. Why is it that the best of us — whether very smart males or the best females — are the ones dropping in number the fastest? That is the most alarming thing — our most conscientious, beautiful, and thoughtful people are limiting their family size or not having kids at all. Part of this si that they are told the world population is exploding and we cannot sustain it. True, people — but it is not US!
To lose such genetic wealth is a real tragedy! It is irreplaceable, a national resource gone forever. Nothing is more valuable in the universe than the life which took perfect conditions and 4 billion years of percolating chemicals and untold darkness, sacrifice, suffering, and strife to arise. So many billions of organisms were martyred in the march to modern human thought and culture. How can we so thoughtlessly and callously let ourselves wink out of existence? As far as we know, we are the only race in the universe to beat the odds and reach abstract thought and objective truth levels which can overcome our animal passions to build something greater for the future with mind-boggling real potential in the universe.
Excellent article. It’s good to see some practical advice for a change. I would only add, that it’s important for us to network with other racially-conscious Whites. Seek them out in your area. Socialize with them. Do business with them. Be there for them.
Great advice. You are wise beyond your years.
This was indeed a great article as others here have noted. As someone who is still in my 20s, I am always seeking life-advice from older and wiser people — especially advice related to ‘things they wish they would’ve known or done’ back in their 20s but didn’t find out or do until later on.
I look forward to reading more articles like these in the future, and it’d even be great if TOQ did a series of them for us younger pro-White and pro-Western activists.
“Consider going to church”
Well, if they had ‘churches’ for Deistic pantheists like me, or for people with religious views outside of the ‘Western’ Judeo-Christian norm, and I mean places aside from the far-leftist and severely multiculted Unitarian Universalist gatherings, then I would probably go.
Excellent article! It would be great to have matchmakers. I think that the avenues available to Whites to find potential mates are rather sparse and inefficient. When I look at other cultures with high fertility rates, they have both family and community matchmakers who help people to find spouses.
If you’re a Christian in search of a white Christianity, consider Kinism. http://kinism.net.
Also consider reading Dabney’s “A Defense of Virginia and the South” http://dabneyarchive.com/
Good article, but the married bit is wayoff. I am single woman who has been married and as nice as it was I love my single life. I have no stress, I have money and lovely home and car and friends. I dont need a marriage to validate myself and given a choice I will opt for single life. Loneliness is a state of mind not a state of being. Whilst marriage can be a wonderful thing it is an institution that does not suit all. I am not advocating children without married parents, but to think you live longer because you are married is ridiculous. Lifestyle and stress will determine life span. Not convinced i’m afraid that humans are meant to be 40 years with one partner.
Instead of church one might want to connect with the majority of their bloodline, which was (and can be again!) Heathen. Our identity is not in the sands of Israel, it is in the Alps of Europe.
Some common sense in well-written style. I’ll have to say how child un-friendly white people are some days, especially I notice this when I am out with my son, who is a little shit full of piss & vinegar. It’s sad: they rather focus on some ridiculous sense of ‘individualism’ which amounts to accumulation of stuff & religious adoration for the Pentagon which amounts to nauseating behavior. Its not capitalism or the free market or the Army of None that will save you White Man. It’s having babies, saving some dough, escaping the rat race, trying out some of those corny Traditional Values that worked so well until the past 200 yrs.
MJC
Karen Marshall:
Good article, but the married bit is wayoff. I am single woman who has been married and as nice as it was I love my single life. I have no stress, I have money and lovely home and car and friends. I dont need a marriage to validate myself and given a choice I will opt for single life.
You seem to be missing the author’s point. “Validating” yourself is post-modernist, anti-white claptrap. You owe a duty to your family and your race. The self is the last of all considerations for a proper white man or woman.
Eriksson:
Instead of church one might want to connect with the majority of their bloodline, which was (and can be again!) Heathen.
Instead of indulging in romantic day-dreaming of a neo-pagan revival, one might want to realize that the majority of one’s bloodline is still effectively Christian. Energy exerted on “traditional” religions is wasted. The pre-Christian pagan conceptions of deities is not something that’s ever going to be taken seriously by any significant number of people in these days, nor would it be useful for white nationalists even if it was, as tribal gods lack the unitive aspect of Christendom.
You seem to be missing the author’s point. “Validating” yourself is post-modernist, anti-white claptrap. You owe a duty to your family and your race. The self is the last of all considerations for a proper white man or woman.
Could you explain this please?
Do you actually think it’s possible for any human being to live without a sense of value, which is what validation means?
Are they only capable, or allowed, to acheive it by being a good White person? By being an anonymous member of a category, and not as an Individual?
And is there only one definition of what a good White person is?
“The self is the last of all considerations for a proper white man or woman.”
A proper White man or woman?
What century are you living in?
Did it ever occur to you that Whites are in a dilema of their own making?
Or are you content to blame Jews and the Left for everything?
Did it ever occur to you that there might be consequences, serious emotional and psychological consequences for denying the Self and forcing children, adolescents and adults to live their lives playing out a Role, so they can satisfy the expectations of people like you?
How do you expect to be taken seriously?
Do you know anything about Family Systems Theory?
Do you think it was created to hurt Whites? It’s one of the few reliable things out there that could actually help us.
More importantly, how do you expect to inspire other Whites by giving silly, historically regressive commandments from your little hilltop?
What if by some miracle we are successful in restoring ourselves to power?
Are you prepared to dismiss those who want a healthy Self as post-modern kooks, the way Jews demonize dissenters by slandering them as anti-semites?
One could just as easily say that prating on about “duty” is pre-modern authoritarian clap-trap.
What is a couple supposed to do once they’ve satisfied their duty to their Race?
Just sit there and be White? Perhaps you’d be happier in China, or a Lighthouse.
I also don’t think you sound like much of an authority on the Self.
Could you describe it please? Could you locate it’s origins?
Do you really believe the concept of the Self was created to destroy Whites?
It was created by Whites! Why? To satisfy a desire deep within them, us, that no other Race shares, or has – the desire for Spiritual Growth.
Haven’t you ever been to the Metropolitan Museum of Art?
It’s a virtual monument to our desire as a Race to grow along spiritual lines.
There’s no reason that desire can not be extended to the Individual as a gift received From the Family. This would help us, not hurt us.
That the word “Self” has been hijacked and distorted by the Left is not in question.
They did the same thing with the word “Diversity”.
But it’s still no argument against the real thing.
Do you actually think it’s possible for any human being to live without a sense of value, which is what validation means?
Are they only capable, or allowed, to acheive it by being a good White person? By being an anonymous member of a category, and not as an Individual?
And is there only one definition of what a good White person is?
Strawman.
A proper White man or woman?
What century are you living in?
Appeal to chronological snobbery.
Now, I’m not particularly interested in addresings the remainder of your attack at length, consisting, as it does, of much the same sort of fallacious hyperventilation as I’ve pointed out above. Suffice it say that the vehemence of the emotional appeals you’ve substituted for arguments, and the obvious, and rather ironic, desire to forcibly conform me to a pre-conceived type of your own merely reinforces my point that this practice of focusing on the self is ultimately deleterious, both to the self, itself, and to the broader community.
You’re forgetting, Mr. Donovan, that the vast majority of whites — whether they be male or female — are simply not cut out for marriage today. Most of the females are either male-hating feminists or too self-absorbed for the sacrifices involved; most of the males are either self-destructive underachievers or too childish and timid to take on the responsibility. Maybe a few individuals are worthy of it, but the vast majority are not. This is just a basic issue of fact.
Furthermore, the majority of whites today are not merely culturally or spiritually undesirable, they are also physically unattractive. 60% of them are overweight, and the remaining 40% would still probably benefit from a little exercise themselves. Then you have the fact that people today dress very poorly and have a generally ’sloppy’ appearance. Look at photographs of people from several generations ago and you’ll basically the opposite situation — loads of good-looking, thin, well-dressed people who are ready for the real world at much younger ages…
The simple fact is that most whites are just not marriage material, whether they be male or female…
It is good to see some support in the article to Christianity, although it is rather lukewarm.
Funny, irreverent, to the point, poignant. In short, Excellent!
The line that brought tears to my eyes was this one- because it’s true. “And if an adorable blonde two-year-old squealing “daddy” and running into your arms when you get home from work isn’t enough, take a darker view: Your race is dying, White people. Resuscitate, stat.”
Even Franz Liszt, the great piano virtuoso, wrote a song on the Italian text, ‘Angiolin dal biondo crin” [Angel fair with golden hair]. What I’m saying is, it’s not only genetic, emotional, it’s clearly cultural as well.. for Europeans.
Nothing – I repeat- NOTHING- is as precious as that little buddy or princess tackling you with unabashed joy (and the closest thing to worship a human dare experience) as your children do, at the end of the day.
As a cleric, I can ALSO say, that without children, the Church will DIE. No amount of ‘multiculturalizing’ or ‘inculturation’ will KEEP Christendom alive, as the need for, and the supra-organic blessing of children in the Body of Christ. They truly are the ‘arrows in your quiver’ and the ‘joy of your heart,’ forever.
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